Tuesday, May 23, 2006

One more thing

It may interest you gentlemen to know that throughout much of the history of civilization, chastity has only been valued as a commodity in wives, who were then considered as chattels for the purposes of breeding legitimate heirs, and nothing else. These wives were rarely esteemed for their companionship; they were not loved or cherished as individuals, and they were chronically betrayed by their husbands, who often brought home putrid sexual diseases as wedding presents.

The women with whom these husbands betrayed their wives, if they had sufficient income and social standing, were known as 'courtesans,' or in Japan, as 'geishas.' These women had all the elegance of wit, education, sophistication and experience that their wives lacked, and their services cost a fortune. The commodity value of a courtesan was actively enhanced by the number and social standing of her previous lovers; any number of nobles would give half their estate for a chance at a tryst with a king's mistress.

The point that Pretty Lady is making is not only that temperamentally, she has much more in common with a courtesan than with an illiterate brood mare, but that reducing a woman's value to that of a commodity is not conducive to mutual affection and security any more than flagrant promiscuity. Also that sexual chastity is not inherently a desirable thing in a man's eye; also that wit and sophistication have their value in the sexual economy.

Also, that much of the petty snarking to which Pretty Lady is occasionally subject comes across as nothing more than plebian sour grapes.


Pretty Lady said...

Apology and clarification accepted. It IS a sore subject, for the very reason that women are seen as sex objects whether they are virgins or not; in my experience, particularly when they are virgins. I held onto my virginity a lot longer than the average female in my social milieu, and was treated like a freak for doing so.

Oh, and that should have read 'aspersions,' not 'dispersions.' Pretty Lady has dispersed her own character freely enough.

Leif said...

Scooter -

1) I don't see how it follows that discarding chastitiy ensures been viewed as a sex object. As a male, I discarded my "chastity" (do men even have such a thing?) and I will be darned if I can get people to view me as a sex object.

2) If woman had "total" control over their chastity, rape would never happen.

3) Anyone can be charming.

Anonymous said...

Morgan said....
It's just so divisive, is all.

I am always brought back to nature's cartoon characterization of a dog peeing on a hydrant only to have the hydrant peed upon by another dog, each asserting their definition and "last word" or in this case, last squirt ...on the conversation.
It seems such a human characteristic to have the last say. It makes it so difficult to take conversations from the ping pong stage to the communication stage.
The worst part of it all is that there is probably nothing wrong with that, how frustrating to think that the problem is me.

Anonymous said...

SOuthside, you are right. Back to the drawing board a.k.a. I go to find an unclaimed hydrant.

Pretty Lady said...

Not all wives - current or historically - were or are "illiterate broodmares," my love, not even those of us with unusually large broods.

Now, Morgan. You, dear, are no stranger to the use of hyperbole for literary effect, and surely you can understand when I am doing it, particularly on so grave a provocation as being accused of having discarded my commercial value along with my hymen. And if I were to go so far as accusing all wives of being 'illiterate brood mares,' this would also have to include my mother, my sister, innumerable close friends, and, not imposssibly, myself.

No, my point was merely to demonstrate the gaping flaws in Scooter's economic reduction of gender politics, which Scooter himself has now conceded.

And Morgan, I am the biggest fan of your happiness on the planet, as well you know. :-)

Pretty Lady said...

It is apparent that you and I traverse in vastly different milieus PL.

Yes, we do. The fact is, unfortunate or not, that the world has changed a great deal in the last century, and that adherence to a rigid code of fundamentalism, of whatever stripe, necessarily ghettoizes a person, creatively, intellectually, and socially.

Sending your daughter to college is sufficient to get her treated like a freak for remaining virginal around her peers. Vox would be down with keeping your daughters out of college; I am not.

That being said, a woman decides through her actions whether or not they she treated like one. Her chastity is the key.

I would amend that to say, 'through her actions AND HER ATTITUDE.' Women who conduct themselves with calm, confident self-respect are respected. Whining doormats are not, no matter how virginal.

Pretty Lady said...

Tell me who. I will crush them.

Oh, Billy. How darling of you. The petty snarking of which I speak generally occurs upon VP, and it stems from the element which pathologically snarks at everything female anyhow, so I do not take it personally.

However, these individuals exemplify the epitome of 'plebian sour grapes,' as Morgan well knows.

Anonymous said...

In concurrence with Southside...
~ ~
you can see in this conversation how quickly we men revert back to our apish understanding.

Pretty Lady said...

I’m some Victorian troglodyte who wishes that all women be locked in towers with chastity belts chained to their waist. This is only partially true.


I rest my case.

Anonymous said...

Seems to me, wherever there are prople, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence...

Maybe I will start relieving myself in the neighbors yard... whilst I weareth thine wifeth beaterth outfit....

Sorry for the vsual PL, I am after all just a guy.... ;)

By the way PL, is there anyone you want rubbed out?


Pretty Lady said...

By the way PL, is there anyone you want rubbed out?

Thank you for asking, my darling! At the moment, no. I prefer to let them all live. Just so long as they understand that this is by my allowance, and not due to any intrinsic merit of their own.


Pretty Lady said...

but rather that she was whining about how men view women as objects when it is women who perpetuate this by their actions.

Scooter, it MUST be early, you keep inserting your foot into your mouth.

Pretty Lady DOES NOT WHINE. I defy you to pinpoint any instance of whining in any of her writings, unless it may be that of the humorous, ironic variety. In the instance you point out, there was no whining occurring except upon the gentleman's part, who was most definitely whining about how all the women he casually slept with were not returning for seconds.

Gender role-reversal, hmmm?

Now, then, Scooter, you have freely admitted that men objectify women. You have gone to great lengths to emphasize the fact that it does not occur to a man NOT to objectify a woman unless she makes it her main focus and agenda to FORCE him NOT to objectify her; your suggested mode of force is entirely concerned with the withholding of sexual favors until he proves himself.

Now, follow closely:

Man objectifies woman. This happens FIRST. This is what we call in philosophical circles an a priori phenomenon. This is something that has happened PREVIOUS to any action or inaction on the woman's part.

THUS, Scooter, ANY ACTION TAKEN BY THE WOMAN can not, a priori, CAUSE the objectification on the man's part. Whether she sleeps with him or not, she has still been objectified.


Is that clear?

Now, you may indeed have misunderstood what Pretty Lady meant by 'extreme progressivism,' but that is perfectly okay. Pretty Lady does not choose to explain, at the moment, exactly what she meant by that, because it includes things which would probably cause your head to explode, and this would serve no kind or useful purpose.

You must simply take Pretty Lady's word for it that this progressivism did not include 'casual sex' on Pretty Lady's part. Primarily what it included was giving too much weight to compartmentalized, masculine thought strategies, and not enough to her own holistic ones.

I find it highly ironic that in order to ultimately make a man happy, women must jettison a large portion of his notions, methodologies, ideologies, and desires, as utterly unworkable and unacceptable.

Pretty Lady said...

P.S. Morgan, I'm starting to feel a bit sorry for Scooter. Perhaps we should lay off him for a nonce; I have a feeling we're starting to objectify him as the Hypocritical Fundamentalist Blame-the-Woman-for-Being-a-Foul-Temptress sort. Really he's a nice sort of person, or he wouldn't keep coming back for more punishment, apologizing all the while.

Anonymous said...

"Thank you for asking, my darling! At the moment, no. I prefer to let them all live. Just so long as they understand that this is by my allowance, and not due to any intrinsic merit of their own." - Pretty Lady

Okay Me-Lady! Just so'se youse knows it. Thine has the shapest sword in the mainland, and whilst stands up and defendeth thou's honour at all costs. (Burp) pardon me. Justs so youse knoweth Me-Lady!

(sulks back home and waiteth for the sound of Me-Lady's voice)



(better go check!)

Anonymous said...

"Discernment RHL is the hallmark of a mature mind." - scooterhawk

What do you mean scooter?

(pick nose)


Anonymous said...


If you have been stuck with a chastisty belt. I would help you out of it, and would only charge you a smile and a thank you!

I bet those things are uncomfortable.

(wipe nose)

Anonymous said...

Awwww.. Scooter.. I thought your comments were very warranted.

What I got from it was:
Women who made indescretions at a young age and learned shouldn't be treated as whores.

However women who act like whores shouldn't be surprised when they are treated as such.

Thats simple and makes sense. I thought morgan was off in left field somewhere attacking your Christian credibility, PL wasn't.. perhaps she took something wrong... but I can see you are a Christian and a fine one at that. Being a Christian isn't how perfect you are, it is the fait you place in Jesus. period. I couldn't possibly live up to the Christian Ideals, and I am not even going to try. I try to listen to God, through the Bible , etc..

If I flub up, which I do and have and will again.. I don't like it, But God is always there to set me right. If I don;t know I am messing up, he lets me know... sometimes not so subtle.

I wished people would stop judging Chrisianity and God based upon mens deeds and actions.

You're a sharp man Scooterhawk, don't let people get you upset. It's just a game to most.

Anonymous said...

I agree

Pretty Lady said...

Pretty Lady officially causes a moratorium on the flinging of waste of any kind, be it biological or verbal.

Scooter, I still have much to say on your succinct and elegant paradigm; I will do so later. I concede that it is true as far as it goes. However, making the argument that one must turn the clock back in order to solve it is non-productive; equally absurd is the argument that 'it's all feminists fault.'

It doesn't matter who threw the bomb; we ALL have to deal with the shrapnel.

Anonymous said...

No flinging.... okay, I will get a hanky.

Anonymous said...

Can one digitize a boogar?

I wonder if one could be sent through the internet kinda lika virus... I should look into it.

That would be rude!


Anonymous said...

to morgan.... (,fling,fling,fling)