tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post6672218577295743320..comments2023-10-31T06:01:54.153-04:00Comments on Pretty Lady: It Does Not Matter That He Loves YouPretty Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00342833918614545778noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-11690295575943688962007-11-06T12:51:00.000-05:002007-11-06T12:51:00.000-05:00If change comes from within, it can't be started f...If change comes from within, it can't be started from the outside. Because that's change from without, not within. If some poke from the outside helps the change, then the change is not from within. By definition.Chris Rywalthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766746064219235983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-88750019451108632492007-11-05T13:01:00.000-05:002007-11-05T13:01:00.000-05:00change comes from within, but sometimes the poke t...change comes from within, but sometimes the poke that helps the change comes from without. my roommate is a in semi-abusive relationship. i know that she has to decide to leave him. i don't know when that will happen. but in the meantime, i'm helping her see that her situation is not how life was meant to be. that it's not normal. that she isn't expected by anyone to put up with what she puts up with. and the more we talk, and the more connected she becomes to other women (and guys, too), the more perspective she gets, and the stronger she gets. and i think that one day soon, she just might be able to drop this guy.single/certainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01794757973481302047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-68968830108059416022007-11-04T10:29:00.000-05:002007-11-04T10:29:00.000-05:00"Change comes from within" just happened to be a d..."Change comes from within" just happened to be a direct quote from an e-mail message Pretty Lady had sent me shortly before I saw this post. It's not so much something I believe in as it's something she professes, which is why I was poking at her.Chris Rywalthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766746064219235983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-22992377341514173502007-11-01T10:33:00.000-04:002007-11-01T10:33:00.000-04:00"Change comes from within" is code for inaction an..."Change comes from within" is code for inaction and another great myth of the 90's self-help farce. Cgange comes from options, change comes from courage, change comes from leadership, change comes from other people carin and change comes from advice. Neutrality is always complicit with the aggressor and the status quo. Continue to 'take a stand" Pl it is appreciated.Bob McInnishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01143178653188722155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-52718506370239268282007-10-31T15:04:00.000-04:002007-10-31T15:04:00.000-04:00It has that learned-the-hard-way ring about it.Yes...<I>It has that learned-the-hard-way ring about it.</I><BR/><BR/>Yes, indeed. And these are precisely the words I would use to point out to my former self, exactly where she was going wrong. <BR/><BR/>That, and when you have been hitting your head repeatedly against a wall for years, IT FEELS SO GOOD WHEN YOU STOP.<BR/><BR/><I>How did you get on your own ad list, anyway, Pretty Lady?</I><BR/><BR/>I signed up for a small, scrappy, visionary ad service, instead of a bloated, complacent and totalitarian one. We'll see how long it lasts.Pretty Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00342833918614545778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-33986839600950151152007-10-31T11:37:00.000-04:002007-10-31T11:37:00.000-04:00Yeah, what DC said.Sometimes, it helps to see ther...Yeah, what DC said.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes, it helps to see there are other options. Though, in my experience, seeing people living other options is much more helpful than just being told about them. You cannot see much of a person's life on a blog; you can only be told about it, but I suspect Pretty Lady has lived this particular advice out. It has that learned-the-hard-way ring about it.<BR/><BR/>There is, after all, a reason why my husband and I do not scream at each other when we disagree like both our respective sets of parents do, and it is not that he and I are saints. (He may be, though he disputes it, but no one would suggest that I am!) No, it's that we saw other adults handle marital difficulties in a different way, and decided that we prefered that over screaming. (Independently, before meeting.)<BR/><BR/>How did you get on your own ad list, anyway, Pretty Lady?BoysMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05474788412440788887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-46641375148123288622007-10-31T10:47:00.000-04:002007-10-31T10:47:00.000-04:00Chris certainly has too much time on his hands bec...Chris certainly has too much time on his hands because Chris' employer has not seen fit to give Chris a whole lot to do. However, Chris' employer's checks don't bounce, and Chris supposes that's the important thing.Chris Rywalthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766746064219235983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-14843526240024126382007-10-31T10:05:00.000-04:002007-10-31T10:05:00.000-04:00consider this: chris has too much time on his hand...consider this: chris has too much time on his hands.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-75274398497156158752007-10-30T20:24:00.000-04:002007-10-30T20:24:00.000-04:00And what, praytell, is wrong with advice?At least ...And what, praytell, is wrong with advice?<BR/><BR/>At least as a cathartic exercise when the world and/or the individuals therein seem hellbent for destruction. And as long as the advice-giver realizes the intended recipient is likely to reject the advice anyway, and is okay with that.<BR/><BR/>Pretty Lady is a giver of advice. It's as much a part of her persona as grumbly mopeyness is a part of Chris'.Desert Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13656526816699347744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-59546759969009890022007-10-30T19:59:00.000-04:002007-10-30T19:59:00.000-04:00Hey Chris, consider this...... whether PL meant it...Hey Chris, <BR/>consider this...... whether PL meant it as advice or not.....<BR/>"consider this" could be simply interpreted as ....consider this.<BR/>Didn't Aristotle or one of those guys present the stuff that way as well?<BR/><BR/>the street version would be...hey man, look at that cool car! gee, mom, what a nice flower...etc.<BR/><BR/>And to PL.....please.... consider this as well...... that while I feel your presentation is well grounded, the 50% that was left out would have the female doing her parallel schtick to the suffering tune of the male. <BR/>Hey....we are all stuck in this stuff. And if one is free of this stuff...one is still forever stuck in it because one's peers are and that is still part of one's life.<BR/><BR/>Happy horrors of life to all of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-44238333082894632772007-10-30T16:05:00.000-04:002007-10-30T16:05:00.000-04:00Ah, but I do not say "I ask you to consider this."...Ah, but I do not say "I ask you to consider this." That's a code phrase for "I am about to explain to you how wrong your views of the world have been. Take notes."Chris Rywalthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766746064219235983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-78165860078177540052007-10-30T15:41:00.000-04:002007-10-30T15:41:00.000-04:00If one never asked another person to consider anyt...If one never asked another person to consider anything, Chris, there would be no point in writing at all. I may point out that your entire blog is a presentation of ideas for consideration.Pretty Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00342833918614545778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-50360944843936890032007-10-30T14:51:00.000-04:002007-10-30T14:51:00.000-04:00Oh, I wasn't aware of your Delphic capacity.You do...Oh, I wasn't aware of your Delphic capacity.<BR/><BR/>You do ask her "to consider this." That's the way people who don't give advice give advice.Chris Rywalthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766746064219235983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-16583521522690752852007-10-30T14:23:00.000-04:002007-10-30T14:23:00.000-04:00Chris, tell me, where in this post is there any sp...Chris, tell me, where in this post <I>is</I> there any specific advice? Is it not merely Oracular Truth? Can Oracular Truth be interpreted as advice, anyway?Pretty Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00342833918614545778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-57318672157404449072007-10-30T11:30:00.000-04:002007-10-30T11:30:00.000-04:00So...change comes from within, but not necessarily...So...change comes from within, but not necessarily the within of the one being changed?Chris Rywalthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766746064219235983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-9849177205241054232007-10-30T11:02:00.000-04:002007-10-30T11:02:00.000-04:00The advice welled up from Within.The advice welled up from Within.Pretty Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00342833918614545778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-14998484062277958352007-10-29T21:16:00.000-04:002007-10-29T21:16:00.000-04:00Change comes from within, and yet you persist in g...Change comes from within, and yet you persist in giving advice.Chris Rywalthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15766746064219235983noreply@blogger.com