tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post3454828993254948531..comments2023-10-31T06:01:54.153-04:00Comments on Pretty Lady: The Vagaries of Economic Opportunity -or-How Things Actually ArePretty Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00342833918614545778noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-21343794314026132982008-10-29T10:25:00.000-04:002008-10-29T10:25:00.000-04:00Couldn't the two girls be called Ann and Beattie?Couldn't the two girls be called Ann and Beattie?CAPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09861096695503969576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-76460441683651687642008-10-28T22:37:00.000-04:002008-10-28T22:37:00.000-04:00Well, of course you can't make something happen fo...Well, of course you can't make something happen for someone else! Read the entire Will Wilkinson article--it discusses both opportunity-creation, and the impossibility of forcing equality. <BR/><BR/>What I am primarily talking about is persons who conspicuously fail to do such things as: perform basic introductions, with pertinent information about Things In Common; provide references, recommendations and referrals; follow up on promised introductions and contact information; and generally Put In A Good Word.<BR/><BR/>All of these things are easy to do without crossing any social boundaries. In fact, both businesspeople and consumers appreciate personal recommendations. When you do it correctly, it is as natural as breathing; you have no attachment to outcome. You simply get in the habit of saying, "Oh, I know someone who is gifted at that; her name is such and such, here is her contact information, I will have her drop you an email." Then you forget you did it.<BR/><BR/>This sort of thing comes back to benefit you as well, when the employer in question says, "Thank you for recommending so-and-so, she's a treasure," and when your friend says, "Thank you for the testimonial/blog review/referral; I'm taking you to dinner/giving you a discount/giving you an original artwork because of all the business I got from it." <BR/><BR/>What it boils down to is that you are never personally responsible for anyone else's success, but being generous and pro-active can make the difference between surviving and thriving, for both you and your friends.Pretty Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00342833918614545778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20403719.post-79966200170275223452008-10-28T20:24:00.000-04:002008-10-28T20:24:00.000-04:00interesting post- i guess it comes down to what on...interesting post- i guess it comes down to what one is prepared to suffer for crossing social lines or lines of etiquette- but its also a gray area if we are talking about how to finesse a situation and take advantage of an opportunity- what if no opportunity exists or if different behavior from a lady could make an opportunity exist? sometimes i have had to pursue opportunities that were merely enthusiastic fans, followers and admirers to make something happen but i wont take responsibility for making something happen for someone else- that ball is in their court.Donna Dodsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17068704959733467515noreply@blogger.com